Monday, April 18, 2011

Week 5: Organize Your Personal Information

This week's goals:
Decide where to store important information. Ideas for this are storing it on your computer, on index cards, or in file folders.

Label each category so it can be easily referenced. Here are great examples of what to record for each category:
*Health
-Allergies (to food, medicine, animals, etc.)
-Your blood pressure
-Health issues that run in the family
-Your cholesterol level
-Your blood type and those of family members

*Finances
-Your credit card number(s) and the phone number to call if your card is lost or stolen
-Your bank account numbers and phone number if your checkbook is lost or stolen
-A budget for your income, expenses, savings, and personal goals
-Your credit score
-Insurance information

*Safety
-Emergency contact numbers
-License plate number and VIN
-Flight numbers for any upcoming trips
-Current photos of every member of your family labeled with heights and weights
-photocopies of passports

*Just in case
-Measurements and clothing sizes for you, your partner, and your children

Purchase a fireproof safety box and store the following documents in it:
-marriage certificate
-birth certificates
-automobile titles
-wills
-household inventory list
-passports

Stay Organized!
Once a month:
-File away any new personal information you receive

Every 3-6 months:
-Add any new major purchases to your household inventory list
-Review your financial budget. Consider ways to save by cutting back on expenses.

Once a year
-Request a free credit report to make sure nothing unusual or unauthorized has popped up on it.
-Take new photos of your family members for your safety folder. Be sure to note heights and weights.
-Update health records.

Recap of Week 4

Cleaning has been difficult this past week, due to our washing machine breaking. That then spiraled into a giant mess. In order to get the washer out of our tiny laundry area (also our pantry), Aaron had to move the refrigerator and take the pantry off the wall. Now, the large "pantry" is in the middle of our kitchen and all of the food that was once in it is all over our counters and stove. So clothes are piled everywhere and there are piles of stuff lying around waiting for the chaos to stop. The washer is supposed to get here on Wednesday, and Bob got a new fridge because ours is a disaster. That is supposed to be delivered on Saturday. Then, things can resume to normality, at least normality for us.

As for the week towards a happier family, we have done quite a few good things in regards to that. The kids and I went on a picnic and nature walk one day last week after I got off of work. Aaron was not able to join us because he was working late, but the kids had a lot of fun playing with bubbles, scouting for bugs, and running around the park. In fact, a child that we met there looked at the little notebooks and crayons I got for the kids to draw what they see and said that I thought of everything. It was awesome that someone noticed that I'd put a lot of effort into this trek.

On Saturday, while my dad had Jude, I took Tahiri to the Easter egg hunt at the presidential library downtown. Since that was pretty windy, I went to pick up my friend Marissa and went to the Blooms festival at this awesome park for the arts in the woods. We walked around for hours and then took the kids back home. We stayed up late, smoked the hookah, and did mini healing sessions. Then we dressed up Sunday and took another hike.

My turbulent week ended with beautiful synthesis and the feeling of being truly okay.

Monday, April 11, 2011

12 Weeks to A Happier Family: Week 4

Fitness Goal:

Take a nature hike with your kids.

Nutrition Goal:

Cut back on caffeine.

Health Goal:

Pick the right medical team.

Happiness Goal:

Eat Dinner Together, or at least eat something together.

Broken Down:

Fitness Goal:
1) Scout out a good place to hike in your area.
2) Make sure shoes fit.
3) Let the kids help prepare by filling up water bottles, making trail mix, and looking at maps.
4) Choose an easy route.
5) Point out waterfalls, wild flowers, and bird nests along the way.
6) Let your child invite a friend. They will be less likely to complain.
7) Let everyone be hike leader for a little while.
8) Make frequent stops for water and snacks.
9) Praise patience and playfulness early and often.
10) Head out in the morning time.
11) Create an explorer's tool kit with the following: magnifying glass, camera, hand sanitizer, sunscreen, crayons and notepad, water, and a snack.
12) Hunt for bugs.
13) Keep it short.
14) Collect leaves for leaf rubbing (on paper)
15) Recreate the beauty through art.

Nutrition Goal:
10 Ways to Get Instant Energy (without caffeine)
1) Laugh out loud.
2) Bust a move.
3) Give yourself a quick massage.
4) Smell lemon, orange, or lime to awaken the senses.
5) Drink water.
6) Try Tai Chi.
7) Snack smart with a combo of protein and carbs.
8) Listen to music you like.
9) Stand tall.
10) Try yoga poses like Eagle Arms and Leg Stretch.

15 Ways to Get A Lot Healthier (FAST!)
1) Take a hike. It takes less than 30 minutes to walk a mile.
2) Kiss him like you mean it (to improve endorphines).
3) Don't worry, be happy.
4) Add color to your salad.
5) Drink a glass of wine a day.
6) Chew a stick of sugar free gum.
7) Fill up on fiber.
8) Drink more milk.
9) Get outside for at least 20 minutes a day.
10) Take a multivitamin containing folic acid.
11) Instead of a can of soda, drink some vegetable juice.
12) Put sunscreen on your feet too.
13) Get more sleep.
14) Patrol your portions.
15) Floss daily.

Health Goal:
We already have doctors for us and the kids, so this doesn't really pertain to us.

Happiness Goal:
We have been eating together every night! So this one is also pretty much mastered.


Week 4: Organize Your Cleaning Schedule

This week's goals:

Make a list of all the chores that need to be done around the house. Break them down into daily, weekly, and monthly activities. Then create a chore chart and have a family meeting to delegate jobs. Post the chart so everyone can see it on a daily basis.

Make a "Bare Minimum" list containing the absolute essential chores that must be completed each week. When you have a hectic week, stick to this bare minimum list so your house doesn't fall into complete disarray while you deal with life. Some bare minimums may include: cleaning dishes, everyday pickup, and the minimum number of loads of laundry needed to keep the family clothed.

Take fifteen minutes each night to straighten up the house. Make it a family chore by assigning each person a different room and list this on the chore chart.

Clean one room or complete one chore each day. This will save you from waiting your entire Saturday on cleaning.

Assign each family member his or her own towel for the entire week. This will cut down on laundry. Color-coding the towels is the easiest way to tell them apart.

Place a set of disposable disinfecting wipes in each bathroom. These are great for quick touch ups between thorough cleanings.

Save space by minimizing cleaners. Start buying one all-purpose cleaner whenever possible.

Tips:
Carry a basket around the house while you are cleaning. If you find something that does not belong in the room you are cleaning, put it in the basket. This saves you tons of time by cutting down on trips around the house. But don't forget to empty the basket every time you clean, or it will become a clutter collector.

Make your bed every day before you leave the house.

A family chore chart provides consistency for the entire family. Kids know what is expected of them.

Clean off the kitchen counter and wash dishes or load the dishwasher as soon as dinner is finished.

As you clean a room or area, try to work from top to bottom and then from left to right so you do not waste time back-tracking.

Let your children choose the day of the week they want to clean their rooms.

Do tasks in bulk.

If your house is difficult to clean, you have too much stuff!

Once a Month:
If there is a particular chore that no one likes, rotate the responsibility each month.

Every 3-6 Months:
Change or launder slipcovers on the furniture.

Once a Year:
Have a family meeting to update the chore chart.

Steam clean carpets and upholstery.

Recap of Week 3

I went out last week and bought a planner that would accommodate my work and home life. I started putting things in it right away, but still managed to miss that the Literary Festival was this past weekend. Fortunately, there was not much that I would have been interested in, so it was okay.
I still have not been able to really compile my comprehensive to do list, with the A, B, and C differentiations, but I plan on doing that this week for sure.
I went to a hypnotist on Friday, hoping to get past life regression therapy done, but the therapist talked me into getting weight loss hypnosis done first, since it would be my first time to be hypnotized. Also, that program is 2 hours, and since I was already paying for 2 hours, it was the cheapest way to go. I have to say that I was pleased with the process. I didn't feel that I went completely under, but knew that I had tried my best not to listen to the words and instead daydream about whatever I could think of. It really did help me with my anger issues as well as hunger issues. There are still a lot of things that I am trying to work on, but I know that it will come to me eventually.

Monday, April 4, 2011

12 Weeks to A Happier Family: Week 3

Fitness Goal:

Plan to get moving at least once a week with the whole family.

Nutrition Goal:

Count your daily serving of fruits and vegetables and increase the number by 2.

Health Goal:

Find one way to save on health care expenses.

Happiness Goal:

Do a family health check.

Broken Down:

Fitness Goal-
1) Stay active as a family.
2) Get moving with active outdoor toys: sacks for racing, an outdoor jump around, super parachute, scooter, or play lawn mower.

Nutrition Goal-
1) Have fruit with dinner.
2) Introduce kid friendly veggies such as cucumber, broccoli, minty peas, roasted red pepper soup, and crinkly carrot fries.
3) Teach kids the food pyramid:
Fruits: Add a bowl of fruit to each meal. Activity to teach: do a matching game with fresh fruit and it's freeze-dried, dried, or frozen counterpart.
Vegetables: Add a variety of veggies to the table. Activity to teach: Let kids plan the veggie side by color.
Grains: Change all pastas and breads to whole grain. Activity to teach: Have your kids play eye spy with all of the good stuff in whole grain compared to white bread.
Dairy: Buy skim or low fat milk and cheeses. Activity to teach: Let them build their own sundae with low fat frozen yogurt, granola, nuts, and dried fruit.
Meat and Beans: a tablespoon of peanut butter or an egg for breakfast is good for a serving. Activity to teach: Have them do a bean test with spreads compared to the beans, or have them taste tacos with chicken, beef, and turkey and have them pick the winner.
Fat, Sugars, and Salt: make sure you check labels and go fresh whenever you can to avoid an overload of these. Activity to teach: Exercise a little more to burn calories from sugary foods.

Health Goal-
The kids have ARkids and the adults rarely go to the doctor, so we don't really need this step.

Happiness Goal-
1) Happier parents make happier kids:
Have a weekday update. Share a highlight and a low point from the day.
Don't make your spouse guess when you're mad. Bring up things when they happen.
Don't give all of your attention to the kids.
Make time to be alone.
Make dates cheap.
Look for little ways to be nice.
Go out on a limb and try something new together.
2) Simple secrets of happy families
Find a community that fits your family.
Get a pet. Teach children the responsibility of caring for it.
Talk to your kids.
Write down your thoughts.
Share the chores with everyone.
Be nice to your in-laws.
Share your family story.
Believe in yourself.
Don't coddle your children.
Treat your husband and kids the way you treat your friends.
Control your temper.
Cherish traditions.
Show up on time.
Welcome other adults into your family.
Tell them you love them.

Week 3: Organize Your Schedule

This week's goals:
Buy ONE daily planner to use for both work and your personal life. Using more than one leaves room for confusion and overlapped appointments.

Sit down with your family and plan your week/month ahead of time so you can:
-Schedule babysitters
-Divide errands
-Plan meals
-Divide chores
-Plan driving arrangements for activities

Gather all your To Do items from sticky notes, calendars and scraps of paper and create a To Do list that you keep in your planner. Make this list as complete as possible.

Sort your To Do tasks by:
A: Tasks that need to be done this week (pay electric bill, etc). Schedule these in your planner.
B: Tasks that need to be done this month (buy birthday present, send thank you note, etc). Schedule these in your planner.
C: Tasks that you would like to get done in the future (have lunch with friend). List these tasks on a separate piece of paper to refer to when you have extra time.

Once you have your tasks sorted into categories, number the tasks in each category, in the order in which they must be accomplished. If you get all of your A (weekly) Tasks done and you have time, you can tackle a task from the B (monthly) list or even the C (future) list. If you don't get all of your A Tasks done, make those unfinished tasks top priority for the next day.

Schedule your dentist and doctor appointments for the next year, and veterinarian appointments if you have pets. Schedule kids' pediatric appointments and family members' dental check ups back-to-back so you can make fewer trips.

Place a small notebook by your bed for those nights you lie awake thinking of things you need to do. Write them down and get some sleep knowing that you'll put them on your To Do list in the morning.

Use a page of your planner for a long-term To Do list. This could include gifts that need to be delivered, borrowed items to be returned, movies to rent, books to read, etc. when you write these things down, you free yourself from the worry of forgetting.

Tips:
Be realistic about what you can accomplish in one day.

Schedule meetings with a start time and an end time so they don't drag on and waste time.

Schedule errands based on geographical location. Don't waste time with extra driving.

Whenever possible, schedule your appointments for first thing in the morning. The later the appointment, the better the chance you'll be delayed.

Avoid placing overwhelming tasks on your To Do list by breaking large tasks down into smaller, easier-to-accomplish tasks. Identify the large task and then write down all the steps you need to take to complete that task. Then set a final deadline for the task and work your way toward it, accomplishing one step each day.

Store your schedule or To Do list electronically instead of paper.

Complete tasks. You only get points on a score board when the goal is made.

Consider your time to valuable to waste.

Once a Month:
Pick a C Task from your list and schedule time to complete it.

Schedule downtime. If you are used to being on the go every minute of your life, downtime may feel uncomfortable at first, even boring. But boredom could very well turn into peace.

Schedule dates with your spouse, your child, your best friend-the people most important to you.

Every 3-6 Months:
Re-evaluate your C Tasks and set final deadlines for items that have been left undone since the last time you evaluated the list. Break the task down into small tasks if needed.

Compare your To Do list to your "Priorities" list and make sure your activities are honoring your priorities.

Once a Year:
On Labor Day, write down everything you wanted to do over the summer but never made time for. When you get your new planner for next year, schedule in these activities.

When you purchase your annual planner, choose one that you really love the look and feel of and that will accommodate your note-making style. If the planner fits your style, you'll be more likely to enjoy using it and use it consistently.

When you buy a new planner, transfer all birthdays and anniversaries for the year.